Friday, May 11, 2012

The Woes of A Single Preacher

I am single and have never ben married.  That's right, NEVER!  On the real, I would love to be married, to have a husband that supports me and the ministry that God has called me to.  However, I am running into some problems in the man department. 

I am not the most beautiful woman on the planet, but I'm pretty attractive if I must say so myself.  I dress pretty well for a broke preacher.  I keep my hair done and I can put on my make-up better than
Tyra Banks on most occasions.  I'm a great cook and conversationalist.  If I were to quote my youngest daughter, "I've got it going on!" So, why is it so hard for me to find a decent man to date much less marry? 

I get approached by men all of the time wanting to take me out.  I never reveal to them that I am a preacher up front.  I usually tell them maybe on the second or third date what I do. The conversation goes like this:

Him:  So, what do you do on the weekends?
Me:    Church.
Him:  All weekend?
Me:    Sometimes more than that.
Him:  What are you ultra religious or something?
Me:    I'm a preacher.
Him:  Seriously?
No:    No, I just wear a clergy collar for the fun of it.

Now, this conversation ends in one of two ways.  He either wants to take me home for fear of the wrath of God sending him to hell for taking a preacher out to dinner, OR, he starts to think of him, the horizontal mamba and me.  Both are no good.

Then there's that brother that claims he will be all right with dating you because he's always wanted a christian woman.  That is, until Annual Conference comes around, 3pm musicals, preaching engagements, District Conference, Mid-Year, Lent, Pentecost, Easter, Advent, Christmas, revivals, Mens Day, Womens Day, Usher Day, Choir Day, Pastor's Appreciation, Early Morning Lay Service, Bible Study and any other day that you have to attend.  Whew, I guess I would re-think dating me also.

I don't know what the solution is other than to wait on God to send me that man who will stand by me as well as I will by him.  I've kissed a lot of frogs in my time and none have turned into a prince. As a matter of fact, if I get one more wart, I think that I'm going to scream. LOL!


  1. I feel this way a lot and just being a youth pastor. I get alot I'm married to the church and its pews or its a power struggle because I am a preacher and they think we might preach to them all night long.

    1. I have run into that problem also, particularly the one about preching to them. LOL!

  2. Rev. Mitchell,
    I hope you realize that you aren't in the struggle alone. I was visiting a church (modestly) a couple of Sundays ago and sat on a pew out in the congregation when a young man asked if he could sit next to me. His second question during "Meet & Greet" to me was, 'So what is it that you do for a living'? (an odd question at an odd time). All I had to say to him was, "I'm a minister" and it took him less than 30 seconds to vacate. I smile as I share this because I praise God for chasing the enemy away! You are absolutely right...they either flee immediately OR they welcome the challenge to test and see how righteous & holy you really are living. Additionally, men who are in ministry, decorated with degrees & accolades and are ordained and even sitting over a flock as senior pastor can be EVEN WORSE. And, yet...I FULLY TRUST GOD in ALL THINGS. As always, keep your eyes on HIM while the snakes keep their eyes on your backside. GOD makes us both untouchable and unattainable to those who have no commission from HIM to engage us. He also hides us beneath His wings. #prayingforyourfaintlesswalk

    1. awriteramongus,

      Welcome in the name of Jesus. I smile as I read your story for you are truly right. God has a way of "weeding" out those who are not good for us. Lay men or clergy men, a man is a man on some occasions. I am praying for your walk as well. Blessings!